Are You Running From Love? - Part 1

Normally, if you ask advice from someone about love or the important things in a relationship, you'll always hear people say "You've got to be open and communicate honestly with your partner". But don't you know? Being honest and open is not the only thing that is important in a relationship? A lot of people - both men and women - have reasons on things that they don't do that easily. Usually, people have a kind of universal fear of being vulnerable or letting somebody in. This is not so different from the common norm. But there are some experts who think the difference is understanding and that there are different ways to approach in changing that.

My personal opinion? Honestly and openness is not the only thing needed in a relationship. If only honesty and openness is the only thing needed, then everyone could be couples and get into a relationship regardless of the situation and compatibility. But we all know, that is not the thing that happens in reality. For me, the main thing that is essential in a relationship is the feel and the compatibility of you and your partner. Without these, where would be the purpose of having a relationship. Of course, a relationship also needs a lot of understanding. As mentioned in the first paragraph.

Sounds so easy and simple? Have you ever wondered why married couples file for divorce? A pair of very loving couples break up after a long period of relationship? Most of the time, you can spot this as it comes or happens. But usually, when your partner does not feel good around you anymore, or when there are signs of a relationship gone bad, either you, yourself or your partner would definitely keep a distance at first. This is what we call as a distancer. Gradually, this distancer, will make the gap between you and your partner become bigger and bigger. In the end, we have what we call a "break up" or "divorce".

WHAT IS A DISTANCER?
Everyday, there are a lot of people getting into relationships. But the real question is, are they committed or not? There are certainly a lot of people who avoid committed relationships altogether. But i am certain that all of us have known people - and even some of us are the people - who will start to get close in a relationship and then pull away when they feel threatened or when they feel too vulnerable or afraid that they are going to be suffocated, or lose their autonomy. It is more subtle when people distance within a relationship.

They are married, but they are really not there - there is a way in which they are holding themselves back to the point that either they or their partner is unhappy. This is something that would be said or best to describe a marriage where a distancer exists.

I'll stop here for the night but tomorrow i will continue on this topic where i will share with you all about "The Common Distancing Behavior Patterns" Hope you all enjoy tonight's post and i am looking forward to share with you the next segment tomorrow night. Thank you for reading!