Feelings & emotions. What are they?

"I still have feelings for her, but I don't love her anymore."

"It just feels so right to be together."

"I just can't bear the pain and anger anymore, I've got to get away from him."

"Our marriage is over - I just don't feel the same way about her anymore."

These are the normal phrases that we come across when dealing with someone who has problems with their relationship or are confused with what they are feeling. Emotions or feelings are one of the things that we use to measure life. For example, if we feel happy then where ever we are, whenever we are we'll think that it is a good and healthy place to be. But if we are unhappy, we do things that we aren't supposed to do. This is dangerous as letting feelings take over usually overrides any values of common sense that we have.

So, what exactly are feelings? From a perspective view, they are what we call the emotions that rise up in us in reaction to events that happen around us. For instance, we can feel can feel happy, sad, excited, bored, anxious, embarrassed, miserable and many more feelings that are mostly indescribable by words.

Feelings are not thoughts arising from the mind but it is the sensation coming straight from one's heart. When one says "I feel that you should not do that" he or she is merely expressing his or her opinion and not his or her feelings.

So logically, everyone have feelings but why in some certain environments, occasions or levels of the society some people think that they do not have any feelings. This is common especially among men and certain women. Have you heard of the phrase "Boys don't cry" ? Well, this portrays exactly why these certain people think that they do not have any feelings. But i know in some countries, men are the ones who cry the most if compared to women. Can you guess which country is that?

What i am trying to say is, everyone has emotions. It is just that some of us, push them down or even out of the way. Sometimes, even you or me do this to ourselves and we will think that we're unemotional or emotionless but in truth, it actually means that we are merely not acknowledging those emotion or not expressing them. Not meaning that the emotions are not there.

Simply put, feelings are the way we respond to what happens to us and around us. It is a sign of what is going on inside you. It is even unique as no other person on earth is quite like you thus no other person on earth has the same set of feelings that you have.

We can't control feelings or make feelings go away. For example, have you ever tried making yourself feel happy when you are sad or miserable? It can not be done can it? Even if it is possible, it will not be that easy.

Sometimes i feel as if i live my life based on my emotions and feelings. I do what i like and i do it when i feel like i want to do it. When i don't i do not even bother about it. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Should i change or should i just be who i am?

I do not feel proud with the way i live my life. Even if i am only so young. In the same time, i am not satisfied with how i live my life but i do not know how i should change my life or what should i change my life into.